About me
How it all started
Sleep is important to everyone and I love sleeping. I remember the days when I could sleep till 2pm…
Before I had my little one, I was having all sorts of ideas and expectations about babies. One of them was leaving babies to cry for a few nights so they can learn how to sleep by themselves. Another one was not to sleep with them otherwise it would become a bad habit. Also there should be lots of blissful moments when babies are sleeping peacefully alone, right? I mean these were all the ideas I got from what social media was portraying and also all the results on the first page of Google search ‘baby sleep’.
I started to question myself when my baby arrived and I couldn’t actually do any of those, nor did i have the quietness all day because baby should be sleeping most of the time. Then social media did a good thing by showing me secured attachment and gentle sleep coaching. They sounded way closer to what my instinct was telling me. Diving in a bit more and I found out they were also backed up by lots of research. I suddenly realized all those first page Google results never actually showed me anything scientific.
Gentle and holistic sleep coach
With the help of the holistic sleep coaching course which is OCN Level 6, I was determined to be part of the community which relieves parents from unrealistic expectations. No parent should feel like failing because of societal norms which were initially set hundred years ago by male doctors who didn’t even have child care experience.
Yet not following those inappropriate norms doesn’t mean you should just wait it out. There are a lot of things we can do to lessen your struggles and still be responsive to your child.
When we start the coaching process, I would be looking at different aspects including feeding, temperament, developmental stage, etc. Sleep can be influenced by numerous factors.
Your baby is unique and you too are unique. You are also the expert of your child. The plan that I come up with will be what you are comfortable with and what you think your child is comfortable with.
With provision of safety guidelines and information, I believe parents should be able to deal with their children’s sleep situations the way they choose.